Ask Dr Angela: “ My 18 year old boy chooses family vacations over me ”
I (32) invited my 18 year old little boy to a week’s vacation in Mykonos, but he doesn’t want to go because his parents are planning a family vacation for the same week. They go to their vacation home in Donegal, and I don’t understand how he could prefer that to a week in Greece. Anyway, I told him I can come, but he doesn’t want me to meet his family yet – and that’s ridiculous. We’ve been seeing each other for six months now and it’s time to show commitment and meet each other’s family and friends.
He insists that we must keep our relationship a secret. I think I could maybe rent a cottage in Donegal for the week; I know where my boyfriend will stay and I might go surprise him. Then he would have to introduce his family to me, whether he wanted to or not. Would that work?
Angela says: No. Your little boy is not ready to introduce his family to you and you should accept him. Remember, he’s only a teenager and clearly not prepared for the kind of commitment you’re looking for.
Don’t put him under pressure; don’t be pushy. Let him enjoy his family vacation, and if you want to talk about engagement and your future together, have a good chat with him when he gets back.
After nine years of marriage, I (37) finally told my husband (44) that I can’t cum when we sleep together. I asked him to stroke my clit, and he tries really hard, but even though it feels good for a few minutes, I still can’t cum. My husband can’t find the right touch, although I explained what he should do for me. All he has to do is stroke my clit with circular motions around the tip, but he never succeeds. I don’t want to give up yet. How can I teach my husband the right technique?
Angela says: If your words alone haven’t given your husband what you need, show him the right touch. To get started, practice out of bed. Let your husband try with his finger on one of yours. When he has mastered the technique, let him try it in bed. Put your own hand on his to guide him. Use a sex lubricant as it will make your clitoris more sensitive and your husband’s touch will be smoother. If that doesn’t work, get a shafted sex toy with a vibrating tip. These are tiny, but work wonders. They will fit perfectly on your husband’s finger and he will just have to place them in the right place to make them work their magic.
I (58) sleep with one of my colleagues. I guess we are what you call friends with benefits. Whenever we feel like it, we sleep together just for fun, with no strings attached. When I told my sister, she said I shouldn’t sleep with this guy without a condom because he has a bit of a reputation. I do not care. I have been through menopause for seven years and can no longer get pregnant.
Angela says: You might not get pregnant anymore, but you can still get an STI (sexually transmitted infection), so use condoms to protect yourself – especially if your friend is sleeping with other people, as this increases your risk of catching something. mean. Take your sister’s advice and get condoms.
I (20) am in a happy relationship with a girl I met at school three years ago. We have a great sex life, but some time ago I realized that I was also interested in men. I have no idea where it all suddenly came from. I just realized that men can turn me on sexually too. I love my girlfriend, but I’m pretty sure now that I’m bisexual.
I’m afraid that maybe I need sex with men to be happy and that it isn’t fair to my girlfriend. Should I part with her?
Angela says: No. If you’re bisexual, that doesn’t mean you need sex with boys and girls to be happy; it only means that you can feel sexually attracted to people of both sexes.
It is not necessary to separate from your girlfriend; stay together as long as you are happy, but talk to your girlfriend. It’s best if she knows you’re bisexual, and talking about it will help you work out your feelings as well.
My new partner (46) mentioned the other night that he was circumcised. I (52) know it has something to do with his penis, but not sure what that means. Does his penis look weird?
Angela says: Circumcision means the removal of the foreskin. Your lover’s penis will be different from an uncircumcised penis, but it won’t look weird – many women actually find a circumcised penis more attractive. With no foreskin, it will also feel a little different when you touch it, but that won’t be a problem.