Q Doc, could you give me some good advice on a possible job at a nightclub in Florida? I’m female, 19, and most people think I’m pretty. A friend told me about this real, high paying job at a club in Florida that advertises what they call “night gang bangs.” Apparently they are looking for a Jamaican girl to join their women’s team. I contacted them by email, and they seemed really interested in me. They would like me to come for an interview.
I know this job has something to do with sex. But I wouldn’t mind, since the money is so good. What do you think, doctor? Is there any chance I can get VD?
I beg you to have NOTHING to do with this crazy offer, however lucrative it may be. I don’t think you really understood the truth about these ‘gang bang’ clubs that have become popular in North America and beyond.
The general idea is that a bunch of guys (often men at stag parties) pay a lot of money for entrance tickets. When they walk into a large room, they can have as much sex as they want with the girls who are “offered” to them.
I just checked out the website for one of these clubs in Florida, and it tells male “punters” that the organizers are not allowing “no more than 26 men” for four girls. That’s actually 6.5 men per woman. In practice, I think it’s likely that every night you would be “sexed” by most of the men in attendance – maybe all 26.
But it’s worse! Many of these guys feel that they have the right to penetrate girls through ALL openings, i.e. vagina, mouth and anus.
Under these circumstances, it is almost inevitable that you will contract a sexually transmitted infection (STI), perhaps on your very first night. Possible infections include gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, herpes, and HIV.
So I don’t care how much money they offer you! Please tell them “No way”.
Q Please help a young couple. Can oral sex cause pregnancy?
A No, it can’t.
Q I’m 20, Doc. Much to my embarrassment, I’ve never been with a woman, so I’m a virgin.
Now I have met a beautiful young lady who wants to sleep with me. Doc, I can’t believe my luck! But I have no idea what you’re supposed to do when you step into a woman. Do I just have to push and push until I hit a climax?
AI would not recommend it. Listen, if you’re really determined to go with this young lady, the most important thing of all is that you shouldn’t get her pregnant – that is, make her conceive a baby.
The second most important thing is that you should try not to risk catching anything from him. (You are very unlikely to pass an infection on her since you have never had sex before.)
My recommendation is that you should buy condoms and wear one throughout sex with her.
Now you want to know if you should just push and push until you “unload”. Unfortunately, that’s what a lot of young men do, but it’s not at all satisfying for the woman. You might be surprised to learn that a lot of women report that their first sexual experiences weren’t very good – mainly because the guy pulled away really fast until he reached a really fast orgasm.
So my advice is to take things gently and not to rush. If you take your time, everything will be much more pleasant for this young lady.
May I say that I hope your relationship is prosperous.
Q My doctor advised me to follow this Depo-Provera jab. Is it true that it makes you have terrible, terrible rules?
A No, not really. The ‘shot’ works great, and once you’re on it there’s very little chance of pregnancy.
However, about 40 percent of women develop menstrual problems, which can last for several months. These may include:
– very heavy periods;
– completely absent menstruation;
– irregular bleeding – which may make it necessary to keep hygienic protection in your purse at all times.
There are other possible side effects. You should discuss this with your doctor before accepting the injection.
Q Although I am a man, I managed to get a pack of birth control pills.
I meet a wonderful girl for a date on Saturday night. Could I get her to take one of the pills and then have sex with her safely?
A no! There are several reasons why what you are planning is wrong:
– The pill is a “prescription only” medicine and you should not have it with you. I don’t know how you got it.
– It is not suitable for some women.
– It can have side effects – and a woman should be informed about them before taking them.
– Finally, giving your friend a single pill on Saturday night would not work. It is very unlikely that it will be protected.
I hope you did not intend to surreptitiously give the pill to this poor young woman, for example by slipping the pill into her glass. It would clearly be against the law and you could be prosecuted for it.
My advice is that you give that illegally obtained packet of pills to a pharmacy. And do not assume that on Saturday you will succeed in seducing this beautiful young woman.
Just try to be nice to her, get to know her, and give her a good time. Remember that she is a human being, not a target.
Q As a 21 year old female, I still haven’t reached an orgasm. It’s really worrying for me and for my fiancé.
Doc, do you think it would help me if I bought a vibrator?
A Most likely. The thing about these devices is that they really vibrate really fast – a lot faster than a human hand.
Therefore, if any of them is applied to the clitoral area of a woman, she will certainly receive quite intense stimulation, and if the atmosphere is good and her mood is good, this stimulation can cause her to orgasm.
I think you should discuss this carefully with your fiancé. But it would certainly be appropriate to introduce a vibrator in your lovemaking. It would also help you to talk about your love life to an experienced counselor, nurse or midwife.
Q Doc, as a midwife, I appreciate your recent acknowledgments of the role of midwives in Jamaica.
Many doctors think the midwife is a “Nana”, but we are well trained and well versed in obstetrics and family planning. We are making an important contribution to health care in this country.
A Of course you are! Well done and thank you for writing.
Q Doc, I think I’m an “average” guy. Do you think women really care about a man’s height?
A No. Usually they don’t. Women are much more interested in the kindness, sensitivity and skill of a man rather than the size of his organ.
– Email your questions to Doc at [email protected], and read more in “Outlook Magazine” tomorrow.